Flame

Like a moth to a flame

I am drawn to you.

Round and round I fly

In the warmth of your glow.

Fly to you,

And I can sore.

Fly into you,

And I’ll fall to the floor.

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Someone

Chose to be with someone who is your best friend,

Someone that makes you laugh,

Someone who knows where you come from,

Someone who strengthens your weaknesses and is in awe of your strengths.

Be with someone who makes you want to be a better person,

Someone who doesn’t only take but gives back in the way you want,

Someone who listens and wants the best for you,

Someone who is intelligent and can give you advice.

Be with some one that wants to see you be all that you can be,

Someone that respects you and your decisions,

Someone that can look past your scars,

Someone that can love you passionately and gently.

Someone who wants to be your partner until the end of time.

Choices, Choices!!

Life is all about the choices that you make, every choice that you make defines you.

Stop what you are doing.

Look around you.

Where you are at this moment….the thoughts in your head…. what you are currently feeling, even the fact that you are reading this post, are all because of a choice that you have made consciously or unconsciously. We go through each and every day making choices that impact our very being.

So where am I going with this? Read on..

Your life, at this very moment is because of your past choices. You don’t like what you are doing? You don’t want to feel the way you feel? Make a choice to change it. Only you have the power to change what you want in your life. How ever difficult it may seem, how ever complicated it may be, all it takes is for you to make a choice to do or to stop doing something in your life!

The universe throws us so many choices everyday. There is always another road, even if you think that you are at a dead end. Most life changing choices are never easy, but if you want to turn your life around, you must be prepared to walk down an unknown road, be prepared for sweet chaos.

The choice is yours and yours alone.

You have one life, make a choice to be happy and live with no regrets.

Love and Happiness

Let love bind you both but let happiness fuel each of you.

I was always of the opinion that love and happiness go hand in hand. Years ago, that was all I believed in. However…i have grown older… and wiser and have come to understand that this pair of love and happiness do go hand in hand and they don’t. They exist on their own and off course together they become a beautiful symphony.

I was reminded very recently from an Instagram post about this very thought and have decided to blog about it. So.. let’s talk about love…the love between two people. We have all fallen in love. Remember all those butterflies and you can’t think straight kind of love… or the he gives me peace love…the one you will spend the rest of your life with kind of love….. So many different variations of love. We have all seeked it. We all want it. We all want love.

So now let’s talk of happiness… where does that come from? Does it come from the love that you seek or/and receive? Yes it does and it doesn’t. Stay with me now…. if we seek happiness from others or in others, we are going to end up feeling empty one day. Why? Because, true happiness comes from with in, it comes from being all that you can be, it comes from being honest with yourself and with those around you, it comes from living with no regrets…it comes from a place deep within.

If you are in love, don’t lose your self in it.. as your love evolves remember that you also evolve. If you are seeking love… stop and focus on you. Love will come because when you are happy from within you are all the more attractive, your personality will stand out. Do what you love, do what you care about.. live life for u and together u will be strong, independent people bound by love and fueled with happiness from within.

To love another we must first love our selves. To be happy together,we must first be happy our selves.

Stripped to my Soul

I have not posted in ages. But here goes…

When you have been just going with the flow…. being complacent… it numbs so many parts of you and it also changes you unknowingly. But then, there is a restlessness that starts to build up inside.. you can’t put your finger on what is going on! I battled this restlessness, it has been a fight that I did not understand, I burried my self into my daily home routine. I had no clue from where or what this restlessness was until it broke me. I found myself not sleeping at night… the crazy headaches…. the sadness…. the tears….and I did not know why.

I have a family that I do love very much. So what was it that was making me so miserable? And then the day came, I did not want to wake up, to get out of bed, I wanted to stay under the covers and cry. Nobody knew the struggle I was facing.. what could I tell them? I have been a person carrying a smile around and had it all together.. a strong person.

Finally, I said it. I am broken. Broken inside. I am lost.

I went into myself…. my brain was being stubborn. It resfused to bow down to my heart’s sorrow. I could not find any answers there. Then it came upon me like a storm… It swept over me these feelings, desires, needs, goals. And that’s when I began to listen to my soul. A forgotten part… just ‘Me’. And I realised that I needed to please my soul….i have to nourish it… I have to love it a whole lot more for who she is…embrace all that she wants to be… All her dreams, her desires, everything.

So here I am, fully aware of myself. I am a whole lot of woman. I am exploding with energy from with in. I am taking baby steps. Only I can fuel the road ahead. Changes. It’s chaotic. But complacency, now that is the killer. Let’s live our lives, being true to our selves. Let’s not just go with the flow, do things like it’s always been done… remember that times change and situations change, you cannot expect to function the same way.

So live. Listen to your soul. Your heart is just afraid of being broken, don’t let it stop you. Your mind is influenced by your soul. So those butterflies that you feel in your belly when you want to make a change…. it’s a good thing. You have to believe in yourself, enough to know that it’s ok to fall, it’s ok to be disappointed, because it’s not going to be easy…. Change is going to be hard. So when you are ready to take that step….go ahead….. Make your move…..lean on somebody….if you can…. Be broken… feel low… it’s ok. You will rise… above everything that you have… everything… you will see all that you want to be…And you can start from there.

Until one day

Until one day,

He woke up never to feel any pain

The sun seemed to shine a little brighter

The air smelled fresh.

Until one day,

He no longer missed her smile

Did not long for her touch

Did not hear her voice in her head.

Until one day,

He decided to walk away

From the clutches of toxic waste and

Bow out with his dignity in tact.

Sharing is caring!

There is a tag on my dress which reads ‘can be washed by men and women’ … it cracked me up! It was followed with ‘share the load.’ Well, I know that some of you are rolling your eyes already.

Do you wish that you could get more of a helping hand from your partner or spouse?…. well…do you think giving the kids a bath once in a month or cooking an occasional meal is sharing the load?

How often do you or your significant other help with the morning routine or let the get some extra sleep? Do you do the laundry together…or at least help?? Does he or she know how to work the washing machine?!

Well..the general defence to not helping in the home is that working has left us exhausted…or just tired…well there are chores at home that need to be done too… chores dont end when you work into your home….there are the dishes, the cooking, the cleaning…you get my drift…it would be so much easier to work together…or divide and conquer…but share the load!

If your partner/ spouse can juggle a job and play house, I think that you can share some part of the load. Don’t think that your part time working/ home maker partner or spouse has it easy; oh and dont think that stay at home mom’s have it easy either..! As a matter of fact it can be more stressful to constantly be doing something at home than going out to work. We all have multiple roles and responsibilities and we can all use a helping hand!

Where do you start?? If you are a sloppy person, start by picking up after your self, if you think the other has it all covered spend a day doing what the other does for the home and decide where you can chip in. There is always something you can do!

Share the load!

If you want to do something occasionally go out to dinner, buy a gift, buy tickets for a movie, go dancing! Share the load every day. If you wanted someone to do everything for you…hire a maid! Remember that you are living your life with the person you love.