In the stillness of the morning,
Pretty birds fly by and sing so sweetly,
The monkeys chatter
And the stream glistens in the sun’s rays.
I sit in the midst of nature,
Captivated by the beauty that surrounds me,
I look to the clearing above
And watch how the frills of the heavens touch the trees.
The soft breeze moves through my hair,
As the sun sheds it’s morning glow,
Warmth runs through my veins,
And the hills call my name.
Alone in my mind,
Every feeling amplified,
In the midst of nature there is no need to hide,
Spread my hands and close my eyes,
Surrender to the universe
And it will give you wings to fly.
Your head can’t focus,
Your legs are buckling.
You call out for someone to hold you,
And there in those arms
It doesn’t matter if you go,
There is no fear or worry.
You feel its just easy to let every thing go.
A little worried voice calls out to you,
And for a second you focus
On those terrified little eyes.
You feel your strenght return,
The cold sweat begins to disappear,
And you realise that even though you feel like you have fallen apart
You want to survive
That little voice needs you to be alive.
Many women in India and around the world are victims of Verbal Abuse. What saddens me is that many of these women don’t realise that they are in abusive relationships and live with their partners thinking that it won’t impact their mental and emotional health.
According to Indian Law, Section 3 in The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005, verbal and emotional abuse includes—
insults, ridicule, humiliation, name calling and insults or ridicule specially with regard to not having a child or a male child; and
repeated threats to cause physical pain to any person in whom the aggrieved person is interested.
Wiki describes verbal abuse “as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent. If the abuser does not immediately apologize and retract the defining statement, the relationship may be a verbally abusive one. Anger underlies, motivates and perpetuates verbally abusive behavior.”
I came across this educating article written by Dr. Steven Stosny, Ph.D. entitled ‘Are you dating an Abuser?’ I have enclosed the link below, I think it captures the Verbal Abuser and Verbal Abuse perfectly.
You are reading this post, maybe because your looking for another excuse not to believe that you are a victim of Verbal Abuse or maybe your looking for reasons to stay… reasons to leave…. What ever it maybe…. Please don’t let him tear you down. Make a change. Remember that what you allow will only continue. Your daughter is watching and listening and she will only grow up thinking that it’s ok to be spoken to that way cause you allowed her to think that it is. Your son will grow up thinking that he can talk to women that way cause you never did anything.
Chose to be with someone who is your best friend,
Someone that makes you laugh,
Someone who knows where you come from,
Someone who strengthens your weaknesses and is in awe of your strengths.
Be with someone who makes you want to be a better person,
Someone who doesn’t only take but gives back in the way you want,
Someone who listens and wants the best for you,
Someone who is intelligent and can give you advice.
Be with some one that wants to see you be all that you can be,
Someone that respects you and your decisions,
Someone that can look past your scars,
Someone that can love you passionately and gently.
Someone who wants to be your partner until the end of time.
Life is all about the choices that you make, every choice that you make defines you.
Stop what you are doing.
Look around you.
Where you are at this moment….the thoughts in your head…. what you are currently feeling, even the fact that you are reading this post, are all because of a choice that you have made consciously or unconsciously. We go through each and every day making choices that impact our very being.
So where am I going with this? Read on..
Your life, at this very moment is because of your past choices. You don’t like what you are doing? You don’t want to feel the way you feel? Make a choice to change it. Only you have the power to change what you want in your life. How ever difficult it may seem, how ever complicated it may be, all it takes is for you to make a choice to do or to stop doing something in your life!
The universe throws us so many choices everyday. There is always another road, even if you think that you are at a dead end. Most life changing choices are never easy, but if you want to turn your life around, you must be prepared to walk down an unknown road, be prepared for sweet chaos.
The choice is yours and yours alone.
You have one life, make a choice to be happy and live with no regrets.
Until one day,
He woke up never to feel any pain
The sun seemed to shine a little brighter
The air smelled fresh.
Until one day,
He no longer missed her smile
Did not long for her touch
Did not hear her voice in her head.
Until one day,
He decided to walk away
From the clutches of toxic waste and
Bow out with his dignity in tact.
Its been so long
I cant remember you
I look in to the mirror
I look into your eyes
I can barely remember you.
So much has changed
I am not the women that you remember
I am a wife and a mother
And now after so long I find myself searching for you
Only to find you standing behind me all along.
I shut you out and you understood.
You know that I will always be someone’s someone
And that I have always loved you
I have overlooked you
But now I see
Without you there is no me and
Somewhere between You and I is Me.