Until one day

Until one day,

He woke up never to feel any pain

The sun seemed to shine a little brighter

The air smelled fresh.

Until one day,

He no longer missed her smile

Did not long for her touch

Did not hear her voice in her head.

Until one day,

He decided to walk away

From the clutches of toxic waste and

Bow out with his dignity in tact.

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Between You and I

Its been so long

I cant remember you

I look in to the mirror

I look into your eyes

I can barely remember you.

So much has changed

I am not the women that you remember

I am a wife and a mother

And now after so long I find myself searching for you

Only to find you standing behind me all along.

I shut you out and you understood.

You know that I will always be someone’s someone

And that I have always loved you

I have overlooked you

But now I see

Without you there is no me and

Somewhere between You and I is Me.

Sharing is caring!

There is a tag on my dress which reads ‘can be washed by men and women’ … it cracked me up! It was followed with ‘share the load.’ Well, I know that some of you are rolling your eyes already.

Do you wish that you could get more of a helping hand from your partner or spouse?…. well…do you think giving the kids a bath once in a month or cooking an occasional meal is sharing the load?

How often do you or your significant other help with the morning routine or let the get some extra sleep? Do you do the laundry together…or at least help?? Does he or she know how to work the washing machine?!

Well..the general defence to not helping in the home is that working has left us exhausted…or just tired…well there are chores at home that need to be done too… chores dont end when you work into your home….there are the dishes, the cooking, the cleaning…you get my drift…it would be so much easier to work together…or divide and conquer…but share the load!

If your partner/ spouse can juggle a job and play house, I think that you can share some part of the load. Don’t think that your part time working/ home maker partner or spouse has it easy; oh and dont think that stay at home mom’s have it easy either..! As a matter of fact it can be more stressful to constantly be doing something at home than going out to work. We all have multiple roles and responsibilities and we can all use a helping hand!

Where do you start?? If you are a sloppy person, start by picking up after your self, if you think the other has it all covered spend a day doing what the other does for the home and decide where you can chip in. There is always something you can do!

Share the load!

If you want to do something occasionally go out to dinner, buy a gift, buy tickets for a movie, go dancing! Share the load every day. If you wanted someone to do everything for you…hire a maid! Remember that you are living your life with the person you love.

Respecting the emotions of our children

Have you ever had a day where you just wanted to laze in bed when you know that you needed to bet to office…. sometimes, we give in snooze the alarm for a bit more than usual… we land up going in late…  do you get a little laid back on a Friday??? We all have those days!! Today… my little one had one of those days… I felt an ache as I saw that look in her eyes as she was being yelled at to hurry up.
We all love to have an open relationship with our children, we would like them to come to us with anything and everything.. we want them to see us as friends as they grow. I believe, respecting their feelings is something that will help nurture that special relationship. We grown ups use the parent card… or the ‘because I said so’ when we want our little ones to fit into our schedule.

We should encourage our children to share there feelings with us; more importantly we should teach ourselves to listen and pick up on their feelings and respect them. Remember that these little people may not understand their emotions and feelings, so let them emote and let us help them understand what they are experiencing by listening to them and take the opportunity to explain that you too have feelings and its a give and take. You  might be surprised at how understanding your child will be!

There is a saying that goes ‘Respect those who deserve it not those who demand it’ our children sure do deserve it! It’s tricky parenting… but it is worth giving it a short. You will discover a side to them that you may not have known…they may too. I think its a step towards raising confident children.

The whims and fancies of childhood

How ever we must remember that it is passing phase, be It the terrible twos and threes or the teenage years. With all the daily pressures that we take on, be it at home and/ or at office it can be draining to have a child throw a fit!
Keep calm, however angry you may be or embarrassed that you may feel, reacting in harsh tones or giving into the thrown tantrum isn’t the best solution in the long lo g run

Most children are often very well behaved when they are with company…there are some children  who throw a fit leaving their parents embarrassed and angry… The dreadful ‘Tantrum’; it is definitely  not easy dealing with the tantrums of children.
How ever we must remember that it is  passing phase, be It the terrible twos and threes or the teenage years. With all the daily pressures that we take on, be it at home and/ or at office it can be draining to have a child throw  a fit!
Keep calm, however angry you may be or embarrassed that you may feel, reacting in harsh tones or giving into the thrown tantrum isn’t the best solution in the long lo g run. Let the child play it out he or she has to stop at some point, when children realise that their tantrums don’t effect you, they will ultimately stop doing it. The key here is to find and show them ways of channelling those emotions that they are going through.
I know that it is not easy and this method takes time and energy but if you really think about it, it makes sense.. we are teaching our children  healthy ways to express their feelings and not shutting them up or giving  into their tantrums just to shut them up. Truth be told I sometimes just give in, but the key is consistency and I try not to let my headaches get the  ahead of me!

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What a parent must not neglect is a child’s tantrum to get your attention,  this usually happens with the working parent or parents. My word to them would be chalk out a routine that your  child can look forward to doing with you;  be it bath time, a special game or story time and don’t forget the surprise ice cream now and then.
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Sibling love

Its lovely to watch the older sibling look after the younger one, I Iove how protective the older ones get and how the younger ones looks to the older one for all kinds of support. Be it any age gap, the bond between siblings is comforting to watch as they grow.

Its lovely to watch the older sibling look after the younger one, I Iove how protective the older ones get and how the younger ones looks to the older one for all kinds of support.  Be it any age gap, the bond between siblings is comforting to watch as they grow.
My childhood was a lot of fun with a younger brother, we laughed and played a d always had each others back and yea the teenage years were not always pleasant but today as adults we are the best of friends.
It is so important to help nuture the bond between siblings. As parents we have to encourage our children  to love each other unconditionally and teach them that they need to support each other’s strengths and weaknesses from a young age. The importance of celebrating a victory and sharing the sadness in losses can start at a tender age and its wonderful to watch them comfort each other or high five each other.
Of  course they will fight and argue! But that is healthy.. it is normal! That also strengthens that bond on some level.. we should not compare our children that could promote feelings of inadequacy in  them as a child and cause envy towards the other sibling.
Always remember that children know our tones even better than we do. They can read our faces without us having to say anything, so be positive and encouraging at all times and they will grow up reflecting the same mentality. Everything starts at home and eliminates outside.
Here’s to Sibling bonds!!

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Sibling love

1+1=1

When only one person is proactively doing something for the relationship… it could be an emotional or mental disconnect, or even physical.. Sometimes when one is doing every chore- his and hers… or making every decision…or ignoring the others time and space, the other starts to become self sufficient!
Why does this happen? I think it happens in the very beginning in small things, that go unnoticed, blinded by love! It is only when things start to get uncomfortable or when you are stretched either physically, emotionally and/or mentally does it hit you really hard; that you keep grappling at small issues trying to fix what ever it is you can!

In marriages/ relationships we say that we are now one….united…so my title 1+1=1 makes sense now.. However, I want to talk about, relationships that go lob sided; by which I mean – one person is burdened in a relationship due to the lack of participation from the other… so that is the 1+1 =1 that I am talking about!
When only one person is proactively doing something for the relationship… it could be an emotional or mental disconnect, or even physical.. Sometimes when one is doing every chore- his and hers… or making every decision…or ignoring the others time and space, the other starts to become self sufficient!
Why does this happen? I think it happens in the very beginning in small things, that go unnoticed, blinded by love! It is only when things start to get uncomfortable or when you are stretched either physically, emotionally and/or mentally does it hit you really hard; that you keep grappling at small issues trying to fix what ever it is you can! So for the other person in the relationship, nothing may feel wrong and he or she may think that you are just so amazing the way you handle everything.
The truth is that he or she has taken you for granted… yes… and you have been letting it happen….either knowingly or unknowingly! Both of which has to stop! Sit down and talk, do not blame, do not point fingers…. talk about your needs and wants and come to a compromise if need be…don’t forget to leave your ego outside.
Somewhere in our busy lives we let ourselves be taken for granted or take our partner for granted. No body likes to hear it but it is a fact, the moment that we realise it, we need to set it right – before either one takes the relationship for granted; now that is harder to fix! So make peace with your self and with each other and there will be peace amongst you both.