Change

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Change

Even if the change may be good for the person and it does not suit us, we either start to judge or start falling apart in our own ways. We love change as long as it improves or supports our physical or emotional requirements.
Each one thinks the other is selfish, unsupportive, illogical. .

Change is inevitable, when change shows its self in the ways of a partner in a relationship it sometimes causes an upheaval! We say that we will love and support our partners, spouses, family members and even our friends… but how many times have you walked away or cut ties with people because – ‘they have changed ‘.
I think that we are all hypocrites! We accept anybody whose ‘change’ appeals to us. Even if the change may be good for the person and it does not suit us, we either start to judge or start falling apart in our own ways. We love change as long as it improves or supports our physical or emotional requirements.
Each one thinks the other is selfish, unsupportive, illogical. ..blah blah.. you know what i mean.. so how do we move pass such issues in our relationships without unravelling? After much thought and deliberation i have words for both.. yes both…
For those who change, go easy on your counterpart… take the time to explain your self, be patient and consider the others opinions because it may just make sense… consider why the change is effecting you and or your partner… for those on the receiving end… ask your self why the person is changing, why its effecting you… take time to consider the change and if thats what the person wants it’s best to let it be as difficult as it may be, try and be supportive!
Always remember that people come into your life for a reason, some are there to stày while others are just passing through!

Living after losing to immortality

Does the pain go away? I can’t be sure… I think we lose a piece of our selves, on a happier note I think we carry a piece of them with us! We live our lives with the memories of those who have passed on… we remember their advice, we remember their life with us with sadness as they are missed physically, the emotional connect is severed… but in our souls we rejoice as they are now immortal.. and we can feel them around us… we connect spiritually

Some break down… some bottle up.. some live their life as though nothing has happened… I have often noticed people being judged by the way they mourn! “She has not cried”… “they are carrying on like nothing has happened” … honestly! Do not judge! The loss of a loved one is traumatic and it is a natural event… our mind and emotions are wired to mourn in different ways!
It is a gutting experience to lose a parent, a child, a spouse, a sibling, a friend and a pet! Does the pain go away? I can’t be sure… I think we lose a piece of our selves, on a happier note I think we carry a piece of them with us! We live our lives with the memories of those who have passed on… we remember their advice, we remember their life with us with sadness as they are missed physically, the emotional connect is severed… but in our souls we rejoice as they are now immortal.. and we can feel them around us… we connect spiritually… this is a transformation that we undergo when we experience loss… transformation that will mould your thoughts and being into a somewhat new person!
The pain that you go through can only be understood by someone who has been through the same situation … so lean on those who know your pain. They will guide you and pull you back to reality when you wander away too far while you mourn. Be strong.. be week.. feel… we are wired to experience a rainbow of emotions…it only means we are alive, we are human beings.. we just have to channel our experiences positively to make us better people!